1. Mull Phase
It’s been something you’ve been thinking about doing; something you’re capable of, something that would likely improve your life by leaps, bounds, and other ambiguous distance metrics. Something that would enable you to talk at parties with an unforseen confidence; “Yes, I’m doing the Paleo diet. Yes, I am exponentially better than you.“
The mull phase strictly occurs in your mind. It’s the fantasy stage, the stage that someone at a TED Talk would likely refer to as the ideation stage.
The key here is to only view the positives of your potential resolution. This way, you’ll be able to slowly delude yourself into thinking your resolution is something you’re actually capable of doing.
2. The Emotionally-Fueled Rash Decision
Usually occurs around the holidays, when those really depressing Silent Night drunk driving PSAs make you ponder your existence more than usual. This decision then, is…
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1. Not only focus on the inherently positive things that warrant gratitude but also the difficult things that were crucial for getting you to where you are now. Failure and loss are almost always pivotal redirects.
2. Stop annihilating yourself for having some self doubt, an off day, a not-so-picture-perfect past or uncertainty about what you want your future to look like. You don’t have to have it together all the time. You don’t always have to understand yourself, and nobody should expect you to, least of all yourself.
3. Take notes on your life. If you take a second to write down the little, otherwise insignificant things in your day that made you happy or upset you, especially if you seldom care to admit that they affected you, you’ll notice some pretty telling patterns about yourself.
4. Understand that the opposite of love is indifference. Re-evaluate your relationships with that…
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We learn that there are things we should ignore. We are taught to disregard the ignorant and hurtful manifestations of bullies’ reactions to their own internalized insecurities. We need to let their words roll off our shoulders like we are made of ice—don’t fuel the fire. The nonbelievers, the naysayers, the haters are people we need to ignore as well. They’re just wing-clippers, waiting below us with nasty ulterior motives, determined to never see us soar, eager to watch us fail. We ignore the pangs of pain rippling through waves of exhaustion as our lungs tighten and our hearts pump, desperate for more air, when we return to the gym after a longer than intended hiatus. We pretend not to hear the inappropriate comments of relatives at holiday dinners (within reason) because we’re so rarely together, it’s not worth tarnishing the quality of quality time. We ignore the behavior of…
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